My youngest sister beat all four of her elder siblings and got married first, that over-achiever 🙂
From my request, she agreed to let me share the complete cost of her wedding. If you are planning a wedding, this can be a guide of sorts.
(if you are unfamiliar with Malay weddings, this is a TL;DR version: akad nikah is the marriage solemnisation ceremony, usually only family members and extra close family friends are invited. The wedding ceremony if for inviting everyone else)
Some background information about my sister’s akad nikah and wedding ceremony:
- The akad nikah ceremony was held at parents’ house in Shah Alam, Selangor. We invited approximately 100 guests.
- The wedding was held at an events hall in Shah Alam. It was a joint wedding ceremony for both bride and groom (as opposed to one wedding ceremony each for each side… I didn’t make the rules). Each side invited approximated 1000 guests.
- This is based on 2015/2016 pricing.
- The wedding, all things considered, looked very expensive but was done on a budget. My sister is REALLY good at fashion and branding. She’s an entrepreneur and owns her own Instagram shop called Marquise.my.
I mean, srsly. If you see her instagram, you’ll know what I mean.
Malay Wedding Cost – The Akad Nikah
- Canopy: RM880 – rented 1 x canopy, 10 x tables, and 3 x buffet tables
FREERECEIVED HELP– provided by family members
- Pelamin (aka Dais): RM2000 – 1 x pelamin, 7 x dulang hantaran, floral bouquet
- Photographer: RM900 – 1 x event + free outdoor photoshoot
- Door gifts: RM400 – 100 x cupcakes, VIPs get extra water and a book, 100+ paper bags
- Sound system: FREE – borrowed
- Bridesmaids outfits: RM350 – for 7 people
- Makeup services: RM500 – Mak Andam came to house
- Bride’s outfit: RM900 – custom made
- Malam berinai: RM200 – Inai lady came to house
- Spa for bride: RM300 – package set
The amount above DID NOT include: wedding rings, gifts for the groom, house cleaning and renovation (culprit: Mom), new bedroom set, random stuff that we needed (like sound system cable we had to get super last minute), money given to the Tok Kadi, fabric+tailoring costs for family members’ matching outfits, and other bits and pieces
Malay Wedding Cost – The Wedding Itself
- Venue: RM5000 – originally RM10,000, but since it was a joint wedding, each side paid 50%
- Catering: RM30,000 – THE BIGGEST EXPENSE RIGHT HERE. It was the venue’s in-house catering service. RM30 per pax for 1000 guests.
- Pelamin + Decoration: RM4000 – originally RM8000, but since it was a joint wedding, each side paid 50%
- Wedding Cards: RM900 – Package set. This includes: 450 x wedding cards, 4 x buntings, 1 canvas, 50 x VIP box, 4 x arrow signs, 53 x button badges, 1 x guestbook, 1000 x name stickers, 1000 x thank you tags, and 2 x welcome boards.
- Photobooth: RM750 – Originally RM1500, but since it was a joint wedding, each side paid 50%
- Photographer: RM900
- Door gifts: RM3000 ESTIMATION – This includes 300 x fans, 600 x prayer mats, ? x big boxes of assorted sweets, and boxes/casing for each of them.
- Sound system + DJ + MC + Entertainment: RM2500 – originally RM5,000, but since it was a joint wedding, each side paid 50%
- Bridesmaid + Flowergirl attire: Minimal – covered under akad budget
- Makeup: RM700 – Mak Andam
- Bride’s outfit: RM1800 – custom made
- Bunga Pahar (or bunga telur): RM80 – cost price; family member helped made
The amount above DID NOT include: hotel room for my sister, fabric+tailoring costs for family members’ matching outfits, and other bits and pieces
Grand total for both events: RM56,060
Expensive? Ugh, yes. But this is in line with the average cost of Malay weddings, which according to this news articles, is between RM50,000 to RM80,000.
As much as I don’t like the price tag, I have to admit that the wedding was very tasteful and classy. If they told me it costs 5 times the amount, I would have believed them.
What she did right:
- No kompang (much to my mom’s horror)
- No tiara (also much to my mom’s horror)
- Wedding music selection done in-house (my other sister’s job)
- Family members helped with akad nikah catering and other stuff
- Borrowed sound system
- Helpful friends
- Getting a lot of quotations
- Splitting cost with the groom’s family
What could have been better:
- The biggest expense, hands down, was the catering for the wedding. RM30k! This could have been lowered if we reduced menu items (too much leftovers!) and/or reduced the number of guests.
All in all, I think that the wedding was extremely value for money. My sister is mad talented when it comes to this – subscribe to her Instagram account for source of fashion, ideas, and inspiration.
Getting married soon? How much is your budget and what do you plan to do with it? I hope this guide helped you somewhat. Share if it helped!